babies on the mind
D used to joke that he could hear S’s baby clock tick across state lines. When we first moved to Nairobi, the ticking seemed to have become muted, likely due to the combination of excitement over our new lifestyle and the travel opportunities it afforded, as well as the stress of settling in and finding gainful employment. Although her yearning for motherhood was as strong as ever, S found herself vacilating between wanting kids soon and postponing pregnancy to make the most of our first tour abroad.
Lately, the topic has been cropping up with increased frequency in our conversations, and S has taken to tacking baby pictures to our fridge. The fact that Nairobi has a well-established reputation as a baby-making post certainly plays into it. At dinner last night, friends of ours announced that they were pregnant. Last month, S helped organize a baby shower for another couple who are our close friends, and we’ll be going to yet another baby shower in a few weeks. Although we are 4-5 years younger than most of the people who comprise our social circle, it’s hard not to notice that we are running out of childless friends.
For his part, D is somewhat ambivalent about rushing into fatherhood. It’s not so much that the prospect is daunting; in fact, he’s had a hard time pinning down the reasons for his hesitation. If he had to put a finger on it, he might say that the frenetic pace of our relationship has been a bit overwhelming and that he’s still getting used to the idea of being a family man. With less than nine months left in our tour, we’ll definitely leave Nairobi without expanding our family. The ticking is again getting louder, however, so it seems not unlikely that photos of our travels will cease ground to cute baby pictures on our blog in the not-too-distant future.