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babies on the mind

D used to joke that he could hear S’s baby clock tick across state lines. When we first moved to Nairobi, the ticking seemed to have become muted, likely due to the combination of excitement over our new lifestyle and the travel opportunities it afforded, as well as the stress of settling in and finding gainful employment. Although her yearning for motherhood was as strong as ever, S found herself vacilating between wanting kids soon and postponing pregnancy to make the most of our first tour abroad.

Lately, the topic has been cropping up with increased frequency in our conversations, and S has taken to tacking baby pictures to our fridge. The fact that Nairobi has a well-established reputation as a baby-making post certainly plays into it. At dinner last night, friends of ours announced that they were pregnant. Last month, S helped organize a baby shower for another couple who are our close friends, and we’ll be going to yet another baby shower in a few weeks. Although we are 4-5 years younger than most of the people who comprise our social circle, it’s hard not to notice that we are running out of childless friends.

For his part, D is somewhat ambivalent about rushing into fatherhood. It’s not so much that the prospect is daunting; in fact, he’s had a hard time pinning down the reasons for his hesitation. If he had to put a finger on it, he might say that the frenetic pace of our relationship has been a bit overwhelming and that he’s still getting used to the idea of being a family man. With less than nine months left in our tour, we’ll definitely leave Nairobi without expanding our family. The ticking is again getting louder, however, so it seems not unlikely that photos of our travels will cease ground to cute baby pictures on our blog in the not-too-distant future.

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  1. Dad #

    Matt Katz read this and told me they are ready to buy the schnapps and kichel for the Brith. Sounds like the clock is a loud ticker! I would have guessed in the digital age it would have been electronic with some marimba sound generated by your iPad.
    Whatever you decide – we stand ready with bags and Towels packed.
    Daddy

    September 9, 2012
    • Alan, you’re awesome! We both appreciate your support, and I do especially.
      — D

      September 10, 2012
  2. Mimi #

    I want babies!!!

    September 10, 2012
  3. Dani #

    My husband wasn’t ready for us to have kids (wanted more time for just us) until he was, suddenly, very ready. I think perhaps he had been ready for a long time but until we actually had a conversation about it he hadn’t given it much thought as a real option. It seemed like a “future” thing until we actually talked seriously about it. Then all of a sudden he went from “how about next year” to “how about next week” overnight. Having kids does change everything but it also changes nothing. You guys will still be you, kids or no kids and they definitely add some adventure to the more everyday aspects of life!

    September 11, 2012
    • We’ve enjoyed building a bit more history as a couple this tour, but my obsession with all things baby is hard to quell. It feels right to be talking about baby(ies) in the “not too distant” future instead of “sometime” in the future. I’m trying to prepare for things to be completely different than we’ve prepared. And that’s where the adventure begins, right?

      -S

      September 11, 2012
  4. We are in a similar situation here in Shanghai. People around us are having babies left and right, but we made a pact when we signed up for this FS adventure that our first post would be baby free. Like you, we wanted to make the most of our first tour and have loved travelling around Asia unfettered. But with 8 months of language training looming next year, it’s very likely that we will be taking a new bundle of joy with us to Latvia where I will learn to knit mittens and booties :)

    September 11, 2012
    • Language training seems like the perfect time for babies. In some ways I wish we had some (also for the language training itself), although I like living abroad. Not to mention, I’ve never loved the idea of having to med evac back to the States at 34 weeks and having to worry that I’ll be early. D has argued that being in a tiny, sleepy Post or (not unlikely) not having a job is not a reason to have a baby, but that sounds like the perfect time (second to extended FSI training) to me.

      I’m craft inept so no knitting for me, but I’ve decided my nesting activity will be learning to can and pickle.

      -S

      September 11, 2012

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